Why It’s Not About the Money!

Do you have a money dialogue? I do and over the years it has wreaked major havoc in my life. I do not like to share this part of myself, but I think it’s about time that we women got serious about our money and how it ties to our self worth and personal value.

I’ve had a lot of money and I’ve also been flat broke trying to support my daughter as a single parent. I remember having 35 cents in my checking account and not a promise of money coming in for a week. I remember feeding her Kraft Macaroni & Cheese every night for a week and feeling like I was the perhaps, the biggest loser in the world.

Debt…avoidance of paying bills…self doubt…and abject FEAR that I would be found out, was all I could focus on.

When I had a lot of money – I spent it on stupid stuff and ended up with huge debt.  Debt is the robber of dreams and destroyer of freedom.

I still have money issues and I battle them every day, but I feel like this is the year that I’m tackling money HEAD ON. This is the year of simplifying. This is year of not buying stuff. This is the year, I move past this insanity.

I had already decided that this was the year and then a miracle happened. I met Dr. Patty Ann Tublin, renowned relationship expert and MONEY WIZARD and she is someone I’m excited for you to meet.

Her new book

Money Can Buy You Happiness: Secrets Women Need to Know To Get Paid What They Are Worth!  hit today and this is one book, you do not want to miss.

Dr. Patty Ann is a straight shooter and she’s telling it like it is. Some of what she says you might not want to hear, but hear it – we must!

My interview with Dr. Patty Ann was long and involved and I want to share it all with you. So please make sure you check back over the next few days because I’m breaking it up into manageable pieces.

Let’s start with this, “Money represents so much more than money.”

What? Did she just really say this? She did.

If you have any sort of issue around money, and truthfully, I’ve never met a woman who does not (unless she’s done a lot of work in this area), keep reading and order this book.

What became very clear to me in this interview is that money is a commodity. It has no emotion. It doesn’t care anything about you and MONEY does not discriminate. Money is the end product of our how we see ourselves and the rules society has set in place – the gender gap, if  you will. And let’s be clear – there are societal rules about money in the workplace.

What Is Your Money Dialogue?

Dr. Patty Ann told me that we can immediately tell what someone values based upon where they invest their money. That made me stop and really think. I have too much stuff for sure. How about you?

Women have a money dialogue that is anything but encouraging. Some of the things we say are…

I can’t have that because I’m not worth it.

I can’t change that.

I don’t deserve that.

I can’t invest in myself because…(fill in the blank.)

Each of these statements is self-deprecating and reveal that you don’t think you’re worthy. Money had NOTHING to do with how you talk to yourself, but once you change your money mindset, it has the ability to change your life in a multitude of ways.

Dr. Patty Ann made it very clear that “there is NOTHING NOBLE about being underpaid and allowing it. And furthermore there is nothing noble about being broke.”

When women make money, they enrich their own lives, the lives of people they love and they give to causes they care about.

Money is not the problem…we are.

Tomorrow I’m delving more into my conversation with Dr. Patty Ann Tublin and how you can change your money mindset and finally be free of this albatross.

Do you have money challenges. Leave a comment below and let’s finally get a money conversation started.

Whatever you do…grab your copy of Money Can Buy You Happiness: Secrets Women Need to Know To Get Paid What They Are Worth! and start reading.

It’s an easy read filled with excellent information.