What keeps you awake at night? What are the thoughts that keep spinning around when your brain tries to get quiet. You know the thoughts, right?
Is it caring for an aging loved one and wondering what’s going to happen?
Is it your career and worrying about whether or not your job is secure?
Is it finances and how to make ends meet?
Is it health related?
Is it your children?
Is it your marriage or any other relationship?
Is it just a lot of “what ifs” ?
Or is it a combination of many of the above stressors?
Is worry part of your daily living and if so, how can you keep from spending so much of your time in fear-based, worried thinking? I’ve written about how the “what-ifs” will derail your life – BIG time, but do you spend time focused on worst case scenarios rather than finding a solution or making a decision to get out of your head?
If you’re sick of worrying and you’re ready to take action keep reading.
You should know what unrelenting worry and doubt does to your physical well being. It drains you emotionally; puts your adrenals on high alert and ultimately destroys them; sends your anxiety levels into overdrive and interferes with your sleep, which will eventually interfere with daily living. Pretty major side effects wouldn’t you say?
The good news is that you CAN train your brain to stop worrying, while also learning new methods to calm down.
News Flash! Worrying has never solved a problem or improved on any situation – NEVER! Sadly, though, a lot of folks are pretty married to the pattern of worry.
The end to constant worry is gratitude. That’s right…simple gratitude. The truth is that if you’re able to read this, you’re blessed. If you have a roof over your head & heat in your home – you’re blessed. If you have food in your belly, you’re blessed. Considering the horrific conditions that much of the world lives in – you’re blessed. It is impossible to worry when you live in gratitude. Seek gratitude and the worry dissipates.
I understand that when you’re in the throws of worry, it’s virtually impossible to see or experience gratitude.
Most of the things you worry about are a mere blip on the screen of life and the other things don’t really even manifest into anything.
“When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.” – A story told by Winston Churchill
Most of the things we worry about or lose sleep over never actually happen. We create the monsters in our head. So ask yourself the next time you find yourself obsessing over worry, “How many of the things will most likely happen?” Actually put your worry on hold and press the pause button.
Don’t get lost in vagueness. Be like a detective and dissect the worry. Break it down into smaller pieces. What is one positive action you could take that would help diffuse the worry? Keep going with this process and watch how quickly you begin to manage worry. Don’t let it get bigger than life.
Don’t try and guess what’s going on. It’s futile and ridiculous to try and guess what’s going with someone else – whether it’s your boss; your spouse; a friend – anyone. You can’t begin to know what’s in someone’s mind. If you’re worried about a relationship – stop worrying and ask. It’s really not as difficult as you’re telling yourself it is. Be authentic and human and ask. It shows you care. Worry can’t handle it when you step up and out.
Do something physical. Go to the gym. Take a walk. Dance and sing. Doesn’t matter what you do as long as you do something. Change your physical state and GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD!
Shine a light on the worry. That’s right…bring it out into the open. Talk about it with someone close to you. Venting and talking it out can have a positive impact on your perception. Pretty soon, you’ll discover that this worry is more a creation of your own negative thoughts and is not nearly as serious as you’re imagining. Remember to break it down into small manageable pieces. This works!
Focus on the present. Try not to spend so much time focusing on the future. You only have now…this moment and when you spend your time thinking about the past and worrying about the future – the present is irrelevant. You have now. Stop and reconnect to what is happening for you right now and then take an actionable step towards solving whatever is keeping you up at night…one step at a time.
Will this work? YES, but only if you decide to do something differently. It’s always within your control and you always have a choice. What will you choose today?
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