Is it time to fight for your life? Are you tired of the status quo? Are you wishing and hoping that something would change? Are you waiting to be rescued?
I have this wild and crazy idea that each of us has a responsibility to design a life worth talking about because of the simple fact that you are a miracle! There is not another human being alive who is just like you. So not only is it your responsibility, but truth be told…you deserve it.
Assuming you agree that you want to design a life worth talking about, and I truly believe most everyone does; the question becomes – What’s holding you back? What’s keeping you from actually fighting for your life?
Do you know that 78% of the United States population is dissatisfied or unhappy with their lives? This leaves only 22% of the population who are maybe satisfied, happy or just getting by.
78% is a huge number, and yet…we settle.
You literally get ONE LIFE – JUST ONE. This is not a practice session or a dress rehearsal. This is your ONE LIFE, so why would you settle?
We settle because Change is HARD and the status quo is easy.
We settle because we don’t know what the change will bring. Change anyway, because you’re not supposed to know the future.
We settle because it’s easy and we always seek easy. Easy is lazy.
Do These Things and Fight for YOUR LIFE!
1.What do you want? You have to get absolutely clear on identifying what you want. If you don’t know what you want or you’re too afraid to get clear about it because you have some sort of guilt about asking for what you want, then you have to push through those feelings and get clear about what you want.
2. What are your life values? What do you value most? Get clear on your values and design your life around that. Do you know how many people are walking around with no clue about their personal values?
3. Draw your big picture vision. If you don’t draw then cut out pictures, but actually create a vision board. What does your life look like when you design what you want? Keep it front and center so you can see it every day. Add small details to your board that are attainable. For example…let’s say you want to own a private island in the Caribbean and right now, that’s a pipe dream, but maybe a vacation to the Caribbean or just to the beach is in your near future. Add a photo of that. Little steps toward a big dream add up.
4. Take small steps toward your goals. You don’t have to eat the whale all in one sitting. Small steps when combined = big outcomes.
5. Stop using Busy as an excuse. Stop busying yourself with distractions. If you can escape the busy trap, you’ll be way ahead of the masses.
6. Who are you hanging out with? Really…who takes up your time? If you’re hanging out with negative, unsupportive people, how do you think this effects you? Sometimes you absolutely have to walk away as difficult as it may seem. I seriously doubt that Richard Branson surrounds himself with negative people. Why should you?
7. Protect yourself from people who steal your energy and take more than they give. Period. End of conversation.
8. Seek out people who have already achieved the change or outcome that you desire. If you don’t personally know anyone, then find a mentor. This will vastly speed up the process. You don’t need to walk this path alone. Are you worth the investment? It’s definitely more challenging to do this on your own.
9. Do you need to learn new skills in order to be successful with your vision? If so, figure out what you need; how much it will cost and decide if how you will go about learning. For example…when I wanted to have an online business and blog so I could reach more women, I had to invest in some software and education. I made some hefty investments in my education, had some failures, but I learned and grew and I don’t see those failures as mistakes. I invested in my business, my future and me.
10. Don’t give up when the going gets tough. It will get tough. You will have some awful days because – remember Change is HARD and you’re never going to want to do it. Pause…take a break but don’t give up. Anyone can give up.
11. Laugh at yourself. Really – keep laughing because it helps.
12. Leave the Pity Party! You don’t have to hang out at the Pity Party. You are not pitiful. You have the capability to design a life worth talking about and unless you want the talk to be about how pathetic you are…I would recommend that you close the door on the Pity Party.
13. Practice being tough and resilient. You must foster these habits to keep going.
14. Celebrate small successes. Do not wait to honor your progress until you reach the outcome, because you’ll get discouraged. When you have a success – throw yourself a little party. Be proud of your accomplishments no matter how small.
15. Ask for help. This goes back to #8, but in addition, it’s important to ask for help in whatever form you need it. Feeling vulnerable and scared? Ask for help. Feeling lonely? Ssk for support. You’ve got to do the asking. You cannot be successful living in a vacuum.
16. Don’t chase the next shiny object. It’s easy to get distracted when you set out on a new life journey and there are a million distractions. Keep your eye on your values and stay the course. This is when it’s good to have a mentor. Mentors and coaches keep you focused. You dig in, do some quick clarifying work and your path is easier because you actually have a PLAN!
17. Choose yourself for once in your life. Make YOU a priority. Schedule down time and fun time. Treat yourself to some sleep. Find ways to celebrate YOU and indulge in a little self care, which doesn’t have to break your budget.
18. What do you need to quit or stop? Sometimes we’re our own worst enemy.
19. What do you need to let go of or leave in the past? Are you telling yourself an old story that doesn’t serve you or your vision for your life? It’s time to let it go. If the story you keep repeating isn’t serving you…why are you holding on to it like it’s somehow a precious jewel?
20. You don’t have to say YES to everything. Choose who and what gets your time and attention. In order to maximize your time, you have to be realistic about what you can accomplish in a day, while also making sure that there’s a benefit to you vision. More about this here.
21. Take a good long look at your boundaries? Do you have clear boundaries? Do others cross your boundaries? Boundary-setting is very important. Remember: You are treated based upon the strength or weakness of your boundaries.
22. Get clear about who you need to be to show up in your new life? In other words, if you have a big vision for your life, you can’t show up as a shy, self conscious person. You have to show up and be who your vision needs for you to be.
23. Spend time every day in gratitude. This is a proven concept and if you’re a cynic about this whole gratitude thing, then we need to talk. There is always something to be grateful for. I recommend you keep a gratitude journal.
24. What can you cut from your life to live more simply? We’re inundated with STUFF. We’re the stuff society and most of this stuff we don’t need; in fact, we don’t really use it. Clear your mind and space from clutter and open up to all that is possible. When you unclog your life – you create space for a better flow. So get to un-cluttering.
25. Do whatever you can do stay out of debt. Credit card debt enslaves you and designing your life is not about being enslaved by credit card companies who could care less about you.
Live in the moment…celebrate your successes…clear out the clutter (that includes people)…focus on your values always…stay in integrity…strengthen your boundaries…speak up…honor yourself…and embrace the fact that you get just ONE LIFE.
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So I ask you…Is it Time to Fight for Your Life?