I have a confession to make and it’s not easy, because truthfully, I’m a bit scared to share this, but I’m going trust that I’m not alone and maybe by putting this out there, it just might make sense to you.
I spent years living in the “if only” aisle of life.
You know the “if only’s” right? I believe we all have spent a time or two there and some us more than others.
If only I weighed less.
If only I had more money.
If only my family understood me.
If only my child didn’t act out.
If only my husband made more money.
If only my husband would communicate with me.
If only I had a bigger house.
If only I could have a new car.
If only I had gotten that raise or promotion.
If only life was easier.
If only will wreck your life and wreak havoc in your soul. I know, because I lived this and it’s a lie. We’ve been deceived into believing that we would be happier if we had a different set of circumstances – if somehow we got the things we wanted, life would be better and we would be happier.
We live in a world that tells us things make us better. Things make us happier. Chasing the next shiny object is how we should be spending our time.
But the truth is that if we’re not content with where we are and find a way to be grateful for what we have…nothing is ever going to fill the void because the void comes from within.
Of course there are tragic situations that happen and we have no say or control them, but once again, the woman who seeks her answers from within and through her relationship with God will always find a way to recover and move forward. Each of us has the opportunity to decide if circumstances will control us. We decide how we respond to life.
Our world if filled with shiny objects and things and we’re told the more we have – the better. It’s not the thing but the message surrounding the thing. Have you ever known someone who had it all – everything that money could buy, but knew only emptiness.
Look into the eyes of someone and see if there’s light and joy. The eyes are the window to the soul.
Before I left my home in Los Angeles and moved to Franklin, Tennessee, I had a shopping problem. If my life felt hollow, I would shop – usually for shoes. I spent thousands of dollars on shoes and certainly they made me happy for a short while, until I got the bill and then the guilt would set in and the emptiness would start all over. I kept all the shoes and now I hardly wear them because they don’t really fit my lifestyle any more. I keep them as a reminder to stop and listen.
A large part of my move has been seeking a deeper spiritual connection – an understanding of what my purpose here on Earth is. It’s been two years of seeking and discovering and letting go of the If Only’s and the What If’s and it’s been a rough road, because I don’t let go easily.
Moving to Franklin has taught me more in two years than I’ve ever learned in my life. Through the trials and tribulations of all that a move of this magnitude brings, to the missing of friends and family, the ending of a business and starting all over…I somehow found a way to let go and forgive myself and find my home to me.
Facing the truth is hard. It’s easy to blame circumstances or others for the state of our soul, but again, it’s a lie. Our souls need discovery and nurturing and it’s only when we take the time to get quiet…step away from social media comparison…ask ourselves what’s missing before chasing the next shiny object and really stop being afraid to listen, that we finally allow the quiet voice of God to speak to us.
If only we would learn to come home to our souls, stop living in the If Only’s of life; how different our stories would be.
Because this was so scary for me to share I’d love it if you would leave a comment and let me know that I’m not alone here. Have you ever been caught up in the If Only Aisle of Life?
I hang out here too and I’d love to meet you.