I don’t know about you, but sometimes my brain is NOT always my friend.
I find the second that something goes awry in my life or I’m about to take on a big project, my brain starts in with all the reasons why I can’t do this or that and it’s really, really LOUD! When I’m feeling a lost or out of sorts, again, my brain has its way with me.
MY BRAIN – YOUR BRAIN – The Brain is not always our friend.
Funny thing about being human and having a brain is that we’re hard-wired to go to the negative place before we move forward. I think it’s in our DNA. Fight or flight is our first response. Seldom do we go to the place of trust and believing.
Life hasn’t been easy lately. Funny how things roll along and you fall into the flow of life and you don’t even consider that at any moment the rug could be pulled out from underneath us. And when we’re flowing, often we forget how this all happened.
Here’s what I can tell you. Working in a business with your husband is hard – especially when our wiring is completely different. Our business is going well…it’s everything I prayed for, but I forgot about us. I forgot to pray for grace, and grace is what went out the window. And then I went into control mode, because that’s what I do. And when I’m in that place – there is zero grace.
Then…the man who taught me about God – the only person who ever told me that I am “special and made by a mighty God who loves me wholly,” resigned from the church he founded. I sat there in total shock and disbelief and I felt lost. My heart hurt for him because this was an agonizing decision on his part, but it also hurt for me.
To say that he changed my life would be a huge understatement and I wasn’t prepared or ready for this to happen. I fell apart from the inside out.
I reached out to my friend and I let it all out – my mess and everything that came with it; and in that moment she gave me permission to grieve for the loss of my mentor, my source, my teacher, and my rock. She said she would walk this path me. I actually needed permission to grieve, because I was beating myself up and I was mad at God. My brain is not always my friend.
The good news is that I’ve come back to my center and my connection to Spirit. I spent a few days wallowing in my sadness, but that is not where I want to live. I am not at my best when I’m being critical, judgmental and living in my head instead of my heart. My heart is where LOVE LIVES.
How Do You Find Your Way Out of Your Brain and Into Your Heart?
Begin with full acceptance that you’re human and you want to control your life and possibly the life of others.
Stop and be quiet. Listen to what that VOICE is telling you. Really listen and ask yourself if it’s telling you the truth or are self-doubt and fear running the show? Usually it’s the latter.
Give yourself time for a short pity party. Have a good cry. Let it out, so that you don’t take it out on others (like your partner or spouse).
Then take an action. Change your state. I think and focus on three things that I’m grateful for. It can be as small as the love I receive from my dog. Gratitude will always bring you back to your heart. You cannot be angry and grateful simultaneously.
Listen to the still small voice that lives in your soul. That’s God. Allow yourself to be with IT. IT knows the truth and IT will tell you your next step.
I know this…when you’re brought to your knees, you can stay there or you can look up and surrender.
It’s a simple formula, but you have to practice it in order to perfect it. Life is too short for us to live in emotional pain and suffering, and the only way that I’ve ever found to live in peace is to consciously recognize that the nagging voice in your head is there to pull you away from the God who loves you.
If you want to learn how to manage your Inner Critic – the VOICE, I’d love to teach you. I’ve spent years studying from great teachers. I’ve invested in me and I can show you how to stop being so hard on yourself. Wouldn’t you like to enter 2017 knowing these things? If so, let’s talk.
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