Three years ago I uprooted my life and left everyone and everything that I thought I knew to be true. In retrospect, I made this major life change pretty much on a whim (there was very little planning). I left Los Angeles and moved to Franklin, Tennessee!
Here’s the thing…When your heart is longing for a change, your soul is screaming at you and God’s quiet voice is whispering in your ear… you have two choices…
You can leap or stay stuck. I knew if I stayed stuck, I’d regret not listening to the VOICE. For so long, the voice was there, but pretty quiet – until it wasn’t.
I was restless and longing for something different. I didn’t know what the something was, but I finally stepped out of my comfort zone and took a chance. Sometimes we have to leap and take a chance.
Admittedly, the most difficult thing I’ve ever done in my life was to drive away from everyone and everything that was my life. Through tears and abject terror I kept looking into my rear view mirror hoping someone was coming too. They weren’t. Even though I moved with my family and fur babies…I have never felt so alone.
Two thousand miles is a long way from home, but when you’re scared – it feels like your going to Mars. We knew no one. We had no friends and no jobs. We just took a chance. We trusted that God had a bigger plan for us and He did, but we sure didn’t know what it was. Faith is often very scary and hard.
We certainly didn’t have an easy time of it. Starting over is challenging at any age, but when you start over at middle age, you sometimes wonder what in the world you’ve done. We had a lot of struggles and learned that not everyone is honest when it comes to disclosures.
We spent a lot of our savings on fixing things that were on their last legs. We thought we had made some friends and then as quickly as we made them, they disappeared. We spent holidays alone and there was a lot of sadness. We pretended that we were okay, but our hearts were hurting.
Everything and I mean everything was new, but there’s another side of this story. When you start over, you have this beautiful opportunity to rewrite your story – to discover who you really are – to lean in and trust God. You have a chance to let go of what no longer serves you and create the life you want.
I’m not recommending that you up and move or even that you start over, but I am encouraging you to examine what you want to change or do differently in your life and maybe…just maybe take a chance.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re in your 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s or older…as long as you have blood pumping through your veins, a beating heart and a brain that’s in tact, you can change your life!
As a coach, I do a lot of listening and I can tell you that we women struggle with the same things. Granted, they show up differently based upon your circumstances and your season of life, but I don’t know of a single woman who doesn’t sometimes find herself stuck in comparisonitis, overwhelm, worry, fear, loneliness and longing for something bigger.
You will always have to deal with these feelings because you’re human, but you don’t have to SETTLE!
Is it scary to make a change? YES it is and the second you decide to change in any way at all, FEAR is going to show up. It’s the way it is. The question is – will you listen to FEAR? Will you give it all the real estate in your brain or will you dig deep, walk through the uncertainty and try?
Let’s break it down so it’s not so overwhelming.
Take These Steps to Make Life Changes
First and foremost you have to decide ONE thing you want to change. Just ONE. Start with one. (I don’t necessarily recommend uprooting your entire life as your first decision.)
Ask yourself why this change matters? What improves in your life if you take action? What happens if you stay stuck and do nothing?
What is my Inner Critic telling me? Really get clear about the message.
Is my Inner Critic right? Is Armageddon going to happen if I try something new? Chances are good it won’t.
What happens if I do nothing? What does my life look like in a year…five years if I stay the same? This is a powerful question and you really must answer it. Change requires you to gather your courage and that means doing some personal introspection.
Decide first. Take Action second. Keep taking action. It’s really that simple. It’s not easy…but the formula is not complicated. Your life can change in a moment. IT CAN! It might take you decades to get to the place where you’re so fed up with the status quo that you finally DECIDE to take action, but your life can truly change in one moment!
Small steps when acted upon yield big outcomes.
Remember that you will NEVER, EVER FEEL like changing. You can either give in to your feeling or take control of your life.
You get ONE LIFE. This is not a dress rehearsal. You are far more capable and brilliant than you probably give yourself credit for. Our world is in a tumultuous state and I encourage you to step up and be the shining light that you’re meant to be.
I know it’s scary. I’ll never tell you it’s not. I left my home and started my life over…so I get it. Today I can sit here and honestly say that in spite of fear, loneliness, worry, financial struggle…I am standing. I am stronger. I am resilient and because I took action…I finally embraced who I truly am and you know what…I’m so much better because of it.
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Will you leave a comment and let me know one thing you changed in your life that made all the difference?