Last week I was on a call with a client who was struggling with some life stuff. Towards the end of the call she said, “One day I really hope I have my life as together as much as you do.” Want to know the truth…My life is not always together! It was a lovely compliment, but it got me thinking about being a mentor/coach and how so many days I have to buck up – pull myself up by the bootstraps – leave the outside world behind and focus.
And I’m good at that focus part but it doesn’t mean I have it all together.
I’m not sharing with you today because I want to brag or toot my own horn.
The truth is I sit here right now feeling sad because I’ve failed you. I’ve let you down and I apologize. As a friend, mother, daughter, colleague, mentor, coach and fellow life journeyer, I’ve let you down and it bothers me – A LOT! Here’s the thing…I didn’t know I was doing it. I didn’t do it on purpose, but today I know I know exactly how I did it and I have a perfectly legitimate excuse.
I wanted you to LIKE ME! It’s that simple and that complicated at the same time.
I’ve made the pursuit of being liked more important than fighting to help you see, honor, embrace and express the magic and awesomeness that lives within you. I’m always afraid to really TELL IT because God forbid, you might not like me. You might get angry with me. You might actually not like me!
I’ve let the voice of fear within you have its way, when I know how capable of greatness you are. We’re all capable of greatness but when we let fear win – WE LOSE.
I listened to your stories of why you had to stay and play small. I pushed a little bit, but not enough to kick fear to the curb. I also listened to your belief that you knew great things could come, but now wasn’t the right time. There’s never a right time if you’re actually waiting for it to show up!
I should have pushed you harder when you were at a critical point of owning your awesomeness and stepping out. Instead I withered because if I pushed you too hard – you might not LIKE ME!
When you had doubts I listened, but I didn’t push – at least not like I should have. (Some clients might disagree with this.)
I’ve done it all because I was afraid I would make you mad. I put my fear of losing you ahead of what was best for you. Unconsciously I made it about me when it should have been about the fact that you’re awesome and you’ve got some BIG STUFF to do in this life.
And I’m sorry about it…
But that was the past and we can’t change that and there is no value in justifying what has already happened.
Today…my clients get the real deal. Today my clients hear the truth – not in a mean way, but the truth… and let’s face it…getting your butt kicked isn’t always a bad thing. It’s actually a small price to pay for the support of overcoming hurdles and exploring who your meant to be.
Today…let’s take a chance and step into our personal best. Let’s agree to call out the best in each other. Let’s step on some toes in an effort to stop being so damn polite and passive along the way. Of course we’ll be respectful, but the truth is not always easy to swallow and yet…it is the one thing that will set you on a new path to personal freedom.
More importantly let’s agree that we’re all here to express our unique form of brilliance and shine light into the world and we don’t have to do it alone. Working together to make it happen is what it’s all about.
I’m tired of playing it safe. Aren’t you? We’ve got one life – one precious rich life. Isn’t it time to seize the gift and get going. Let go of the past and start designing a life that lights you up. When you ignite – the world shines brighter.
If your down with it…Let me know. Just leave a comment below. If you want to take the plunge and let go of what is standing in your way, then book a free strategy session with me.