Life is a funny thing especially when you decide to get out of your boat; choose how you show up in the world; take risks; live in faith and trust that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. It’s difficult enough to get to this place, but once you do, coaches and leaders tell you it’s going to be fantastic! And it is except for all the boulders and roadblocks that show up in your path to stop you in your tracks! You ask yourself what’s going on? You feel bound by something stronger and greater than you and what no one told you was how to free yourself from the invisible chains that hold you back!
These invisible chains are always going to play tricks on you, but if you’re aware that they exist, then you can work your way through them once and for all. Your invisible chains are nothing more than:
Unwillingness to change
Fear of the unknown – i.e. failure
Burning desire to be in control
Invisible chains are your safety net. They might not make you feel good about your life, but they exist for the sole purpose of keeping you SAFE! Now here’s the thing about living a safe life –
When you’re living a safe life – you’re hiding. You have zero opportunity to grow and you stay stuck in the predictable patterns of the life you’ve created. I know that sounds harsh – but you’ve chosen your life and you also listen to the drums of fear!We choose our life. We choose to stay stuck or break the chains and go for it! Click To Tweet
So I ask you – what do you want to do? If you want to free yourself from invisible chains, you’ll need a major mind shift and action steps.
Follow these simple steps to break the chains that hold you back.
1. Be aware! Simple right? But not so much if you’re accustomed to always going to your default place of safety, hiding and security. This secure place might not make you happy, but you’re familiar with it and it usually trumps the unfamiliar. Staying safe will never help you live a life that lights you up.
2. Make friends with these chains. They don’t know any better. They’re one dimensional and they have temper tantrums when you start doing things differently in your life. They’re like little children who want to get their own way. Be aware that they will always show up until you learn to manage them. I’ve created The 5 Steps I Use to Quiet My Inner Critic That Work and you can download it here.
3. Get comfortable with what’s uncomfortable. If you really want to make a difference, change your life, get a new job, lose those extra pounds, put passion back in your relationship, raise awesome kids, grow your income – you MUST get over the fear of the unknown. Is it dangerous out there in the unknown? Probably. The waters are dark. The waves are high. The wind is blowing and your safety boat is rocking and rollin’ all over the place. But FEAR is nothing more than –
If you decide to try and break free – you have no idea what the outcome will be. You MUST learn to tackle fear and self doubt.
4. Release your idea of control. We think we have to be in control of everything, which is the biggest lie we’re ever taught. You aren’t in control of the future. You aren’t in control of other people’s reactions. You aren’t in control. All you can do is prepare and know that life is going to happen. Prepare but release control. What if you trusted that God (the Universe, Source – whatever you call it) has this. What if you experimented and trusted? You can’t know the outcome. You can only show up in faith, live an authentic life rooted in integrity, and do your best every day.
5. Change your conditioning. Yes – from the time you were born, you’ve been conditioned to react to your environment; function in the world; believe what you’ve been taught by others who probably meant well; but you don’t have to continue living with the same conditioning.
Think of an out-of-shape woman who wakes up one day and says, “No more! No more fattening foods. No more sitting on the couch. No more hiding in the dressing room. NO MORE!” And then slowly and methodically she changes her life. She ditches the food and replaces it with nutrition. She gets off the couch and commits to working out. She loses the weight and she runs her first marathon and she celebrates her new life and all that’s possible. She left her safe harbor and broke the invisible chains that were holding her back.
We celebrate with her and we’ll celebrate with you!
What’s holding you back? What invisible chains do you need to break?
Need help with this? How about breaking your first chain of not asking for help and take advantage of a Rescue Me Call.