Why is it so easy to run away from self love? Why are we so quick to believe the ugly and negative? Why are we afraid to carry our brilliance everywhere we go?
Have you ever met or seen a woman who is so clearly confident about who she is that she emanates an almost indescribable energy? You want to know this person. You want to be in her presence. This doesn’t necessarily mean she is physically beautiful…in fact, just the opposite. She shows up and when she enters a room, everyone pays attention. She’s not brazen or loud. She’s not flashy. She’s not haughty. In fact…she is none of those things.
She just IS and her confidence shows in how she IS.
This woman is her own best friend and filled with self love.
And guess what? She’s also human, which means she’s experienced challenges, pain, hardship, a past, disappointment, fear, anxiety, frustrations, failures, successes – all the same things that you and I experience and yet, somehow she’s figured out a way spend time in self love – the soulful kind of self love; the kind that begins deep within you and speaks through the eyes.
What does this woman know?
I am not a healer or a prophet. I am a constant work in progress, but I know that the clear path to healing every problem is knowing how to love yourself. It took me a long, long time to get that place. I actually felt guilty and selfish if I spent time in self love and personal awareness. I wonder if you ever feel guilty or selfish? It appears that’s the place we so easily go.
And yet…something miraculous happens when you begin to love yourself more each day. Life simply gets better. Relationships improve. You feel better. Somehow the things you desire begin showing up for you and the negativity begins to dissipate.
Is this too simple? Self discovery is a journey but it begins with the acceptance that you are a divine being and within you, lives a uniquely brilliant woman in spite of your past, your mistakes, your bad decisions, your failures – it doesn’t matter. You are always uniquely, wonderfully YOU. Beginning the journey to self love begins when you accept this fact.
It is NOT selfish to love yourself. In fact, it frees you to love others and to make a difference in the lives of others. Loving yourself does not mean that you go around thinking you’re “all that and more.” It’s having a loving appreciation of who you are. It’s accepting your weaknesses and finding new ways to grow and become more.
I realize that acceptance isn’t necessarily so easy, but I also know that you always have a choice. You get to choose which path you’ll walk in this life. You can choose self criticism. You can choose anger or sadness. But you can also choose love. You can choose self love so you can also find ways to forgive.
What if right now, you chose self love, and even if you have no idea what that looks like, you began seeking ways to live it or at the very least, explore it. What if this was the year, you decided to master self love. Imagine for a minute what life would look like for you and others who know you.
I love this quote by C. Joybell C.
“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”
I’m not saying you walk around with a big chip on your shoulder. I’m simply saying that in my work, I meet too many women who struggle with this concept and when it’s hard and there’s a lack of understanding, we choose to stay the same.
So what if today you just chose LOVE? What if you wrote out what it would mean to truly love you? What if you fell in love with yourself all over again like when you were a little girl and you believed anything was possible? What if you allowed yourself to love you in spite of what isn’t perfect. What if you could just begin doing that?
I want you to know that I spent the better part of my life NOT loving me. I know what that “voice” is saying to you. I know how silly it might feel, but today…I also know the joy of truly, deeply loving me.
What are some ways you could begin to find your way home to self love? Please share below or send me a message if that feels too personal.