Thanksgiving is over. The leftovers are long gone and now comes the holiday rush! Can you feel it? Do you have a yucky feeling in the pit of your stomach? Do you worry that it won’t all get done? And if it doesn’t, what will you do then?
Something terrible has run amok when it comes to the holidays. Advertising agencies are very busy creating campaigns to make you feel like if you don’t give the perfect gift, you’re somehow a loser. Pinterest shows us just how inept we are at creating a magical environment in our homes all on a shoestring budget. There are events a plenty and if you don’t somehow make it to all of them, you fall into the loser category!
This is not what its all about. We’ve fallen prey to the clutches of brilliant marketers and we’ve somehow forgotten just exactly what this time of year is about.
I don’t care what your religious affiliation is or even if you have one. I care about how you get through the holidays without having a meltdown and it begins with being purposeful.
You can’t avoid the holiday pressure, but you can decide how you’ll move through this time of year. Will you crumble and give in to the craziness or will you design holidays that fit your life, budget, frame of mind and personal needs. You don’t have to be a whirling dervish for the next few weeks.
I certainly have not mastered this challenge, but this year I made a decision that I was not going to be the crazy woman trying to create perfect Christmas. Christmas begins in my heart and this year, it’s staying there and will be shared with family and friends. This year…I’m checking my recovering perfectionist personality at the door. This year, my brain chatter won’t win and convince me to go into debt over Christmas. This year, I’m doing things differently and you can to.
Spend some time being quiet and really decide what you want your holiday to look like. Don’t get caught up in what anyone else is doing…create the holiday that will enrich your life.
Hold a Board Meeting and SOON! Meet with your family and let everyone know what your intentions are for this holiday season. Be clear. Let them know that you’re not getting caught up in all the crazy and you’re not going into major debt over shopping.
Plan all activities and outings and schedule your obligations. Really calendar everything and plan ahead. Do you have too many things on your plate? Are there activities or parties you can say no to? Don’t overbook.
Create a budget and stick to it. No exceptions. It doesn’t matter if that extra thing is on sale. It will be there again. Keep to your financial budget.
Plan your holiday menus. Shop in advance and if possible, prepare in advance. Enlist help from others. It’s okay to not do it all!
But what about my relative who comes every year and is obnoxious and disruptive or better yet, critical? I don’t believe you necessarily have to put up with anyone treating you badly, especially this time of year. Can you give yourself permission to speak up? To not take it? To be polite in your dismissing of bad behavior? It’s perfectly okay to let the negative folks in your life know that this year things are different and all negativity should be left outside.
What are the traditions you want to honor? Create the magic around the meaning of being with those you love. Design a holiday and life that make you happy and one that gives back and spread love.
And that is how you avoid a holiday meltdown!
Will you leave me a comment below and share how you avoid meltdowns?