Every day the human body ages. Can we all agree on this? It’s not that you’re aging…it’s how you age. How do you show up for your season of life – the one happening for you right now?
I feel quite blessed that somehow the messages I share are understood by women of all generations and walks of life. We have more in common than we might think; and the beauty of that – is we learn from others who are in different seasons of their lives.
But I’ve got to tell you about this thing that drives me NUTS!
Something really crazy begins happening when you leave your 40’s and enter this new period of life – you begin to receive OLD PERSON messages and jokes from friends who have bought into this whole idea that after 49 years of age…you’re pretty much done with living! I don’t GET THIS and in all honesty, I don’t read it and I permanently delete all messages. I find it offensive, mainly because I don’t think of myself as an old person and my life is taking off in ways I never even dreamed possible!
When society teaches you that you’re old at 50 years old and you buy into it…something is very wrong. I realize that the physical body might not perform the way it did when you were 25, but that too, can often be fixed or at the very least made better with life choices.
Statistics show us that we’re living 33 years longer than our great-grandparents; so if this is the case…why buy into what the advertising agencies and marketing experts want you to believe. Advertisers have been telling us lies our entire lives! To top it all off now we have reality television that tells us that unless you’re a complete and total screaming idiot – then you don’t matter.
CAN WE PLEASE STOP THE MADNESS!
In this new season of my life, I moved across the United States where I knew NO ONE – didn’t have one single friend and had no idea how I would make a living. Oh that’s right…at my age…retirement is supposed to be on the horizon. Well…it’s not.
I’ve made new friends…kept my longtime friends…found my way…adjusted to weather…figured stuff out and I’m living my LIFE! When I left everything that was familiar to me I decided that for the FIRST TIME I had to be open to all that life was offering.
What is it that you want to do? What are the things you’ve dreamed of your entire life, but never tried? Why not take all that life experience and wisdom and go do it?
If you’re over 50 ask yourself, “How can I help someone? How can I be of service? How can I make a difference?” Maybe you take a struggling Mom under your wing and offer up some help. Maybe you finally just show up for YOUR life!
If you’re under “the golden age” and you could use some support – find someone to help you and ASK! You’ve got to ask because most women I know won’t just offer, for fear of being rejected. Become a mentor or find a mentor, but for all that’s holy – start LIVING life on YOUR TERMS!
If you’re in your 30’s, chances are you’ve been sold a big, fat lie because unless you’ve been blessed with everything lining up perfectly – You can’t have it all at the same time! Sorry, but you can’t.
Real life is NOT Pinterest…Instagram or Facebook. Your children’s birthday parties don’t have to be picture perfect and you don’t have to lose 25 pounds to create a safe place for children to play. Your babies need YOU! They don’t need a $400 birthday cake. They need you to guide them and love them and doesn’t always mean that you’re going to be best friends with your teenage daughter! In fact, she doesn’t need you to be her best friend. She needs you to be her MOTHER!
Let’s teach our children – and they’re all our children no matter the age, how to play again…how to be kind…how to absolutely know for sure that they are enough just the way they are. Let’s teach our boys how to be true men and let’s teach our girls that a Victoria Secret model is not the norm. Let’s stand up and tell companies that objectify women and men that they won’t get our business. Hello American Apparel and Carl’s Jr. Let’s teach our girls to stand up for what’s right and not ever believe that The Bachelor is actually real.
Can we do that? Can we stop buying into the crappy ideas we’re being sold and take a stand – no matter what season of life you find yourself in?
If the world says I’m old, I can choose to believe it or I can run the opposite direction. I’m running and I’m finding that there’s comfort and happiness and peace when I create my life.
When you ease into your life and you get really comfortable with who you are and you stop worrying about what others think, you, too, will find a personal peace that brings strength and support to whatever season you currently find yourself in.
So how do you show up for your season of life and what changes do you want to make? Share in the comments below.