You live in a world that is filled with pressure, stress, deadlines, negative media messages, demands on your time…STUFF…just a lot of stuff to get done and sometimes the STUFF takes over and you feel completely spent and utterly exhausted. This exhaustion infiltrates every aspect of your being…physical, emotional and spiritual and really, you’re left running on fumes as you desperately seek a place to refuel.
Can you relate? Does any of this ring true for you?
Many years I ago, I fell down the rabbit hole of exhaustion and burnout – caregiver burnout to be exact. I’m here to tell you that the rabbit hole is a very dark and scary place and it takes some serious commitment to get out – to escape and to recapture your life. The interesting thing is that when you’re running on empty, your ugly stuff is spilling out all over the place, but especially onto those who you feel the most comfortable with.
Exhaustion, overwhelm, stress, demands will all eventually catch up to you. You can’t avoid it because you’re not a superhuman. You’re real. Now here’s what’s hard to hear. You’ve allowed the STUFF to take over…to become bigger than you and to take over your life. You’ve allowed this; most likely not with any sort of awareness, but in order to change it, you have to own it.
Can we establish that there is nothing attractive or important about being a burned out, stressed out woman? Okay, good.
I want to remind you that there is nothing written that says stress and overwhelm and falling down the rabbit hole should be your goal. I’ve never read anything that preaches this.
On the contrary there are thousands of articles and books written that speak to the importance of slowing down and allowing yourself to “be.” Isn’t it interesting that with all these books and help available, self care is really just very difficult, and the question is,
Why is it so hard to love yourself enough to slow down?
I think this is a topic worth exploring, but first you have to get out of the place of exhaustion and overwhelm. And if you’ve fallen down the rabbit hole, you’ve got to get out.
Some Simple Tips to Help You…
- First and foremost you must know that there is nothing glamorous about living an exhausted, stressed out life. You were born to shine and to shine brightly and when you’re exhausted, nothing shines.
- There is only one you and the choice is yours as to how you will live your life? Think about it – ONLY 1 YOU!
- You have to decide that you’re going to make some changes. Actually this is more difficult than it might sound, because you’re conditioned to live an exhausted life. Change is hard and you’re never going to feel like changing, even if your current condition makes you feel miserable. You won’t feel like changing – ever. You have to do what you don’t want to do, so you can get what you want.
- Before you can begin this transformation you must once again remember that NO is an answer. If you accept that you’re not a superhuman and that you simply can’t do it all, then you’ll have to say no to some things. No is an answer. What are some things you need to start saying no to? Make a list.
- Get some sleep or at the very least rest. What a concept. I’m not kidding. Even if you can’t turn off your brain, you have to give yourself some time to rest. If you try and go without sleep, your immune system is drastically compromised. Sleep deprivation is nothing to mess with.
- Find simple ways to rejuvenate. Eat better food. Allow yourself the time to cry. Really let out all your emotions. You’re not weak if you do this. An outpouring of emotion is the best way to release stress. I’m guessing you have a lot to cry about. Exercise. Not vigorous exercise but some form of movement helps. Try and get outside.
- Do nothing. I challenge you to take one entire day and do nothing. Your body and mind needs time to heal.
- Forgive yourself for getting in this place. This was very difficult for me, but I had to forgive me so I could begin the long climb out of the rabbit hole.
- Create a realistic daily schedule. There are only so many things you can accomplish in a day. What is realistic and necessary and what can you let go of? Take one day off a week to recuperate.
- Pray. Prayer and meditation reconnects you to Spirit. Why would you try and go it alone? Chances are you’ve been doing that and it’s not working. When stress and exhaustion become your life, we tend to drift away from our spiritual practice. Now is when you need it more than anything.
If any of this describes you, I strongly recommend that you seek and get some help. We forget to ask for help when we need it the most. Having someone guide you through the process without judgment, is one of the most loving ways you can explore coming home to you. If you would like to know more about this, please reach out to me here. I offer a 20-minute Discovery Session to see exactly how I can best serve you. Go here.
It is possible to get your energy back. It is possible to feel better. It’s not going to be easy…but you can do it, and when you begin to take even baby steps forward, you won’t believe the difference in your life.
Isn’t it time to love yourself enough to slow down?