Last week some friends from Los Angeles were in Nashville on their way to the Kentucky Derby and we had dinner together. I love when friends visit no matter how long the stay. During dinner, my friend Liz said that I was brave – one of the bravest women she knew. Of course that felt good to hear, but I started thinking about what it means to be brave and if I really am.
I always thought of brave as something that required someone to be a hero or go to extraordinary measures to find greatness. I thought it was about slaying dragons and rescuing princesses. I thought it was about heroic acts of unattainable greatness and it is those things…but often being brave is just putting one foot in front of the other when you’re certain that you can’t. It’s taking one step forward when the easiest thing to do would be nothing. It’s when we quietly persevere on our own when no one is watching. Brave is not necessarily loud or showy… and it’s often never even noticed.
If you begin to think about being brave from a different perspective, can you then see how brave you really are? I receive emails from so many women who feel stuck in their own circumstances and have no idea how to move forward. Usually I share the same advice that I give myself and here it is…
1. Visualize what it is that you want. Until you get clear about what you want instead of just focusing on your circumstances – nothing is going to change.
2. Write it down…actually take out a pen and paper and write what it is that you want. It’s not selfish to WANT something better for yourself. Write it down and be very, very specific.
3. Decide to take one small step towards changing the thing that has you stuck. I don’t know what that is for you. Maybe it’s financial or maybe it’s a relationship. Perhaps you’re stuck in a job you hate. Whatever it is…decide TODAY that you’re no longer going to just be fine and take an action to begin moving forward.Forward movement is always rooted in FEAR. They're partners. They like to walk hand-in-hand. You… Click To Tweet
The trick is NOT to stay stuck in the fear.
I love this quote by Jonathan Lockwood Huie…its’ a true Lionhearted Woman.
“I breathe in my courage and exhale my fear.”
4. Just for today…don’t think about your current circumstances. Spend some time living “as if” you are where you want to be.
5. Be brave in the moment. You don’t have to be courageous and strong every second of every day (that would be exhausting).
6. Ask yourself…”If I try this, what’s the worst thing that can happen?” When you stop and really consciously think about it…the risk of trying something new…stepping out of the boat…setting your sails in a new direction…is usually not that scary. Oh sure…you might fail and the quicker you do the faster you’ll be on your way to success. Failure is not a bad thing if you learn from it.
7. Hang out with others who are brave. Who you spend your time with has a huge impact on your life. If you spend time with worriers…you’ll surely have a difficult time being brave.
So am I brave because I moved 2,000 miles away from home for no real reason other than because I was tired of the quality of my life in Los Angeles? I suppose maybe I was. Truth be told, I was scared…really, really scared, but something deeper and bigger kept screaming in my soul and I made the move by putting one foot in front of the other even on days when I thought I couldn’t. My life has dramatically changed in ways that I never dreamed possible. I’ve personally changed. I’ve grown. I discovered that I’m way stronger than I ever imagined. I’m more adventurous. I’m not willing to settle for mediocre in any area of my life, but it wasn’t always this way.
It began with one tiny step forward and many steps backward, but I had determination coupled with bravery and courage and I decided to keep moving forward even if the tunnel was dark and scary. Do I still get scared…you bet I do! The difference though is that I now have a team of friends who support me and I’m not afraid to ask for help.
Asking for help is huge act of bravery. Reach out and just ASK and watch what happens to your life! Schedule your FREE call with me today by visiting the home page of Lionhearted Woman and click the Schedule Now button.
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