Do you ever feel like you just can’t get going or that you don’t have a productive or creative thought in your brain? What do you do when that happens? Today is one of those days and I can’t figure out why especially when I purposefully took the weekend off and rested my brain.
My brain is overflowing with too many thoughts today and this is probably the most roundabout Valentine’s Day message you’ll ever read, but I’m kind of over Valentine’s Day because it’s become so commercial and pressure-filled. What if you don’t do Valentine’s Day right?
Single women feel left out of Valentine’s Day. Some men rebel and run away from it. Some men give in to the pressure and still don’t win, basically because you can’t win at the commercial game. There’s always something new to buy.
Why must we complicate everything so much? What happened celebrating a day about LOVE? Love in all its shapes and forms…just love.
What if you gave love to yourself? What if this Valentine’s Day you began by cutting yourself some slack? What if you allowed yourself to let go of all the pressure? How loving would that be?
I also put too much pressure on myself to be super productive all the time. I’m guilty of this and lately I’m evaluating whether this is necessary or even good for me. I’m learning it’s not good…all this pressure that I/we put on ourselves is not good.
You know what…it’s okay if the kitchen floor has some dust on it. It means there was food on the table.
It’s okay if the laundry piles up. It means there’re clothes in our closet.
It’s okay if the bed doesn’t get made every day (contrary to what some leaders say) because it means I have comfort when I sleep at night.
It’s okay if pet hair adorns my furniture because I have three furry friends who love me.
The list can go on and on and on of things that are okay. This is my year of leaning in and getting quiet. This is my year of really listening to what we worry about. This is my year of digging deeper into self love and in so doing, my eyes have been opened to the blessings that surround me everywhere I go. Why is it so difficult to lean into the blessings? Why is it so easy for us to follow the destructive path of perfectionism and control? (I told you this was a weird Valentine’s message.)
If we travel outside of the United States, surely we’ll find that we have little to complain about or obsess about and perfection will seem silly. Surely we’ll gain perspective.
What if we put all of our fears and concerns and worry aside for just one full day? What if we made the conscious choice to celebrate the moments…the tiny little moments that make up the breadth of our lives? What if we did that? And what if this Valentine’s Day we actually committed small acts of LOVE. Here’s a new perspective to truly honor the spirit of LOVE. You can read it here.
I believe self love begins with total acceptance of the complexities of life and the realization that in the end, what matters are the moments…the tiniest little moments that make a whole life. What matters is how we show up and who we are. What matters is how we live – not what we have.
And as I was wrapping this up, I came upon this quote by Aedriel Moxley…
“Stop what you’re doing. Look around. This is YOUR life. You are smack dab in the middle of making memories. It’s in the mundane and the sticky counters and the piles of laundry that memories are made. God has put you right where you’re at – for this. Because while you’re tackling the things that can seem unmanageable – relationships are nurtured and memories are blooming like wildflowers. Stop and relish the moment for it is – nothing spectacular or out of the ordinary. Your memories are just ordinary moments of normalcy and for that, they’re extraordinary.”
Could this be the Valentine’s Day when you ignore all the commercialism and instead you give the gift of LOVE to yourself and maybe a stranger?
I really want to hear your thoughts about Valentine’s Day. Will you please leave me a comment below?